The purpose of the first meeting is to get to know each other and become familiar with The Cue Box process. Sharing personal information helps members become comfortable talking to a group about thoughts and feelings. Don't share anything you prefer to keep private.
Complete the worksheets before the first meeting.
Pick a volunteer to read the meeting instructions out loud.
Pick a volunteer to remind speakers when time is almost up.
The Facilitator reads the group agreements out loud and participants say "YES". (A participant can excuse themselves if they are unable to agree with each statement.)
Am I willing to
:
Hold confidentiality?
See others in positive regard?
Refrain from commenting or giving advice?
Be an engaged listener, focusing solely on the speaker?
Verbally acknowledge another's work?
If a participant struggles or gets stuck, other members can say "Keep going" or ask "Will another Cue help?"
Each member has ten minutes to share their answers to the following questions. The rest of the group just listens.
A. Start by sharing some things about yourself:
B. Share some things you discovered from the Personal Satisfaction Worksheet.
C. Share some things you discovered from the Sidetracks worksheet. Which sidetracks would you most like to let go of?
D. Talk about the Core Qualities Worksheet. Which qualities did you value the most?
E. What is something you hope as a result of joining this group?
Next go to Break Time, then instructions for Cue Box Sessions.
Core qualities are positive, productive behaviors and values like being open, compassionate, courageous, honest, patient, focused, clear, engaged, fun, and/or grateful.
These are your core qualities - thigs you value in yourself or others. You might not express them fully, but they are available for reference. When you get stuck, see if a core quality might help.
Sidetracks are repetitive thoughts and behaviors that become habits. They get in the way of things we want and need, and take up time and energy. We all have some - which ones are typical for you? Pay close attention to any section with 12 points or more.
Choose three sidetracks you would most like to move beyond. List them here:
What would you be doing if you weren't doing these things? Use The Cue Box to take a look.
Use this worksheet to help identify areas where you want more satisfaction.
The Facilitator reads the group agreements out loud and participants say "YES". (A participant can excuse themselves if they are unable to agree with each statement.)
Am I willing to
:
Hold confidentiality?
See others in positive regard?
Refrain from commenting or giving advice?
Be an engaged listener, focusing solely on the speaker?
Verbally acknowledge another's work?
If a participant struggles or gets stuck, other members can say "Keep going" or ask "Will another Cue help?"
Members take a moment to write down some positive qualities they are willing to be during this session. Then each member reads their qualities aloud.
Example: "I am willing to be focused, vulnerable, brave, grateful, and fun." Other common options are "open," "compassionate," "aware," and "present."
Use some of these qualities or make a short list of your own.
Check-ins help the group reconnect before doing deeper work. Each person takes 5 minutes to talk about a few good things and challenges since the last meeting, and give an update on any recent commitments or action plans. The Volunteer Timekeeper starts the countdown and reminds each speaker when they have 1 minute remaining.
Members tell the Facilitator whether they plan to work with The Cue Box today.
Each member gets up to 15 minutes to work out loud with the box. When the speaker starts, the Volunteer Timekeeper starts the countdown and signals when there are 5 minutes remaining and 2 minutes remaining.
When the speaker reaches Question 6, the Facilitator asks the speaker for details about when and how the speaker will start their action plan or keep looking, and what support they will need. Then each member of the group verbally acknowledges the speaker's work, and commits to provide any support that was offered.
This is the speaker's time to work out loud in a safe space uninterrupted, without comments or advice from others. If the speaker has difficulty, other members may encourage a speaker by saying "You're doing good," "Keep going," or "Will another cue help?"
Cue Box meetings are not therapy, coaching, or recovery programs - and group members are not therapists or coaches. Speakers are encouraged to obtain outside services when needed.
Click the button below to begin a Cue Box session for the next speaker.